Gloria Steinem: A Birthday Salute

Gloria Steinem made over as her childhood hero Wonder Woman

[Tuesday March 25 marks the 80th birthday of my old boss and friend, author and activist Gloria Steinem. I had planned to post the following on Tuesday, but if the New York Times can publish their birthday tribute two days early, well then so can I!]

You don’t have to possess a golden lasso of truth, or an invisible airplane, or even bullet defying wrists cuffs (those are way too clunky to call them bracelets) in order to be a super hero. I’m sure these trappings of Amazonian strength got Diana Prince out of many a jam, but they are hardly required.

You don’t believe me? Just look at Gloria Steinem. She has been a flesh and blood hero to millions of women, children, and men all over the world for more than forty years now. Her weapons…no, strike that. Her tools have modified over the years and have included everything from a reporter’s notebook and pen, to a tape recorder, a manual typewriter, a Mac, a mimeograph machine, hand painted banners, a megaphone, and even a pair of tap shoes.

But don’t be fooled; just because her tools are comprised of everyday objects, that does not mean she has not been gifted by the Goddesses with great powers. Among these gifts, some instinctive and others developed through hard work and experience, Gloria possesses a fierce intellect, a quick but kind wit, a warm and prepossessing smile, an ability to make everyone feel heard, to feel that they can be part of the solution to just about any problem, and perhaps most helpfully, a highly evolved sense of empathy that extends to all creatures, on four legs or two.  

Perhaps on another occasion I shall write about why Gloria has always meant so much to me personally, but for now I’d be happy if everyone who reads this would join me in simply wishing Gloria a very Happy Birthday and thank her for always using her powers for good.

#gloriasteinem

The St. Patrick's Day Miracle

Gather 'round lads and lasses, wet the tea, or grab a pint of Gat as I retell the story of the St. Patrick's Day Miracle (this year with commemorative art!) Despite what you may have heard in legend, it has absolutely nothing to do with snakes.

Many a fortnight ago, oh say around 1997, I was working in an office on the Upper East Side of Manhattan. I was of course wearing my green sweater (never orange on St. Paddy's Day--me mum would come back and beat me with a shillelagh if I even thought about wearing the protestant color on March 17.) Pinned to my sweater was my shamrock shaped button embossed in gold with the phrase Mazel Tov. I'm nothing if not multicultural. I was ready to celebrate. The only thing missing was a little Irish music. 

I had a small CD player on my desk during this dark, unenlightened age before the dawn of the Ipod, but save for one song, I had no Irish music with me. That one song was Carly Simon singing Danny Boy (taught to her as a child, incidentally, by her Irish nanny Annie Brennan) and so I played it. Again and again, over and over, relentlessly for nearly six hours.

I'm not completely oblivious; I did notice how badly this wore on my co-worker's nerves, but I was enjoying myself so much that I chose to ignore it. Eventually someone did beg me to stop; I didn't. I just turned the volume down a little.

At about 4 pm I had to drop off a package for a client a few blocks away at 73rd and Park. As I'm walking up Lexington Avenue it happened: the conjuring, the St. Patrick's Day Miracle. Begorra, if it isn't Carly Simon in the flesh!  And on the East side. Everyone knows she's a Westsider. Musha!

I broke that unwritten contract that New Yorkers have with celebrities. I acknowledged her.

"I'm sorry to bother you, but it's St. Patrick's Day and I've been playing your version of Danny Boy all day long and my co-workers are about ready to kill me. It's the only Irish music I have."

She was sweet and personable, as she always has been when I've met her at book and record signings over the years. We wished each other a Happy St Paddy's Day and went our separate ways. 

I could drink 100 pints, stumble upon a pot of gold, or dance jigs and reels until I'm green in the face and never have a more perfect St. Patrick's Day.

#carlysimon

Synchronized Swimming In The City

                                  

3/2/2014

I'm taking a synchronized swimming class in a public gym on Manhattan's Upper East Side. I'm splashing about in the pool with dozens of women, and all of us, including  my friend Sarah Jessica Parker, are wearing mermaid tails.

But alas, I am not really myself. Instead I am an impossibly glamorous African American woman. I kind of look like the girl on New Girl--the one that's not Zooey Deschanel. I have to say, my hair and makeup are pretty stellar considering I've been swimming in an over chlorinated public pool.

SJP has her hair pinned up, which was a smart move and I find myself wishing I had thought of it. She really seems to be in her element, as she gracefully executes ballet-like hand movements, while the strength of her tail work keeps her upper torso nearly perpendicular with the water.

Midway through the class I've had it. I lazily swim--if there were a word that meant "to saunter while swimming," I would use it here--so I lazily swim...Nay, swaunter, I swaunter to the side of the pool and attempt to climb out.

I call back to SJP, who continues to bob up and down like a dancer on point, "I'm not feelin' this. I'm just not that into it."

                                     

#Sarahjessicaparker

Hey There and Happy Birthday, Georgy Girl

                      

Remembering my favorite Redgrave, Lynn,  on her birthday.  I tried to capture her in her role as Baby Jane Hudson. I think I'm the only person In the world who prefers the remake of Whatever Happened To Baby Jane? with the Redgrave sisters. 

#lynnredgrave #babyjane 

Oscar Week: Barbra Streisand

                               

Oh come on. Did you really think I'd spend a whole week of writing about Oscar winners and creating portraits and not include Barbra Streisand? Shame on you!

Barbra won her Best Actress Oscar for her film debut in the 1968 film adaptation of her Broadway triumph Funny Girl. But it wasn't solely Barbra's Oscar; in a rare tie, Barbra shared the title of Best Actress with Katherine Hepburn. 

The footage of Ingrid Bergman making the announcement is priceless. She's clearly taken aback as she starts to read aloud, "the winner," pause, pause..."it's a tie!"

 A nervous smile dances across her face as she clasps her chin then clutches her chest. "The winners are Katherine Hepburn in  Lion in the Winter." Bergman places the "the" in the middle of the title instead of the beginning, but with her beautiful accent it doesn't much matter.

After polite applause she continues, "and Barbra Streisand!" The place pretty much goes ape shit. Streisand has the original Jennifer Lawrence moment catching her enormous bell bottom pant on the stairs as she heads to the podium, nearly going ass over tit (to borrow a phrase from Helen Mirren.) Luckily for Barbra, director Anthony Harvey, who was also on his way to the podium to collect Hepburn's Oscar, was holding her hand at the time and was able to keep her upright. 

Harvey speaks first. After he finishes Barbra steps to the microphone and takes a good long look at Oscar. The unmistakable sound of her jewelry clinking against Oscar can be heard just before she address the naked golden man with her opening line from Funny Girl, "Hello, gorgeous!"

Much has been written about the sheer and sparkly pant suit Streisand wore on Oscar night. Designed by Scaasi, who was also doing her modern costumes for On A Clear Day You Can See Forever around the same time, the outfit featured a large white collar, a satin bow tie, and over-sized cuffs and on the sleeves, as well as a thin black net lining to preserve Barbra's modestly. Unfortunately the lining was no match for the television lights and photographer's flash bulbs. Barbra appeared to be going commando, especially from her backside.

Though I don't agree, many fashion wags dubbed the outfit a disaster.  At least Barbra retained a sense of humor about the situation. As Scaasi would later write, "next morning Barbra was on the phone to me, laughing about the whole episode." 

A note about the illustration: it's from a color sketch I made, then altered using photo software, and finally   hand painted the edited image using a combination of watercolor, acrylic, and marker.

Oscar Week: Faye Dunaway

               

The morning after Faye Dunaway won her Oscar for Network, she was famously photographed lounging poolside in her bathrobe at the Beverly Hills Hotel. The photographer Terry O'Neill, who would eventually become first Dunaway's husband and in quick succession her former husband, set the scene with copies of that morning's LA Times strewn about, a serving tray with a green teapot, and of course Faye's new Oscar. 

The photo has become somewhat iconic since it was shot in 1977. That far away look on Dunaway's face might suggest any number of things from quiet reflection to smug self satisfaction. Then again, she might just have been exhausted from a night of heavy partying. It was the 70s after all.   

Oscar Week: Anne Bancroft

Tonight's post is kind of a twofer. You've got Anne Bancroft accepting her best actress Oscar for playing Annie Sullivan in The Miracle Worker in 1963 (a role that also won her a Tony Award on Broadway) from past winner Joan Crawford (Mildred Pierce.)

The story behind their meeting is kind of interesting. Bancroft was nominated along with Crawford's Whatever Happened To Baby Jane? co-star Bette Davis. Crawford who was not nominated, famously clashed with Davis while making the picture. When word got out that Bancroft would not be able to attend the ceremony because she'd be appearing on Broadway in a production of Brecht's Mother Courage and Her Children, Crawford somehow finagled her way into reading a brief acceptance speech  on Bancroft's behalf should she win. 

Much to Bette Davis's consternation, Maximilian Schell opened the envelope and announced Anne Bancroft as the winner. Crawford sashayed from the wings up to the podium and had her moment in the sun. But she didn't stop there. Eventually she made her way to New York and presented Bancroft with her Oscar during a curtain call for Mother Courage. 

This was one of those good news/bad news moments for Bancroft. Sure, she finally got to accept her Oscar, but she did so in a tattered potato sack-of-a-costume, with dirt caked on her face and streaks of grey hair poking out of a natty beret while her presenter once again pulled focus in a custom gown and designer jewels.  

Oscar Week: Joanne Woodward

I have to finish this post quickly so that I can have it up by midnight...that way it will still be Joanne Woodward's birthday by the time it's up.

Joanne Woodward won her Academy Award for the 1957 film The Three Faces of Eve in which she played a young housewife suffering from blackouts and wild mood swings. She's diagnosed as having multiple personality disorder (a theme Woodward would return to in Sybil nearly twenty years later.)

Essentially play three roles, including Eve Black and Eve White, two disparate personalities trapped in one woman's psyche, it's a tour de force for Woodward, even if the film is sometimes lacking subtlety. (Old advertising material for the film included the tag line, "A moment ago she was the nicest girl in town...a moment from now she will be anybody's pick-up!")

Joanne Woodward is a and warm presence whenever she appears on screen and I wish I'd had a chance to see on stage. The closest I got was seeing her and her husband Paul Newman at a screening of Shakespeare Wallah at a Merchant/Ivory film festival in the mid 90s. And yes, even from 30 feet away his eyes were little blue beacons of light.

Apparently a talented seamstress, Woodward made her own dress for the Oscar ceremony. I've seen it called one of the worst dresses in Oscar history, but I think the strapless emerald green original with leaf embroidery is unassuming and charming, much like its maker.

Oscar Week: Ingrid Bergman

Ingird Bergman won the first of her three Academy Awards for the 1944 film Gaslight. The exquisite and profoundly gifted Bergman plays Paula, a Victorian  newlywed who returns home to London with her new husband after years abroad following a family tragedy. Unfortunately her new husband (Charles Boyer) is trying quite literally to drive her insane. It's a finely acted melodrama and features the first on screen appearance of Angela Lanburry who was all of seventeen when she played the role of Paula's tart-tongued cockney maid.

Because World War II was still being waged the Oscar ceremony was a relatively low key affair and Bergman wore a simple dark dress that fell just below her knee. Frankly, it wasn't very flattering but you'd have to try a lot harder than a frumpy dress to dim Ingrid Bergman's radiance.

Oscar Week: Marion Cotillard

When I was about 17 years old I literally dreamed about making a movie based on the life of Edith Piaf. I only had a vague notion of who she was at the time, but I learned about her though books, a documentary on PBS and of course her recordings. A few years later while studying film at a community college I decided to take a French class. It fulfilled my language requirement but more importantly, I knew I would have to learn French before filming could begin on my 9 hour miniseries on the life of the Little Sparrow. I've always had incredibly detailed daydreams...come to think of it, not so unlike my nocturnal dreams.

My project never got beyond the dream stage, but happily writer/director Olivier Dahan was able to bring his vision of Piaf's life to the big screen in La Mome, which was renamed for American audience La Vie en Rose after one of Piaf's most popular songs.  It is for her performance in this film that Marion Cotillard was awarded the 2007 Best Actress Oscar making her the first actress to win for a French language performance.

The film is told in a series of seemingly random flashbacks as Piaf approaches death. One moment she's 30, then she's 5, then she's 20, and so on. It's dizzying and intense and feels a little sloppy, leaving some major early life events for the picture's final reel. I remember thinking that the film could have benefited from a more linear time line, but then it occurred to me that if I were on my deathbed reviewing my life, everything would not come back to me in a neat, orderly package. No, this is exactly how it would come, as a series of flashes and waves crashing through my mind like high tide during a late summer storm, and chronology be damned.

I've always thought of Edith Piaf as sort of the French Judy Garland. They were both big voiced singers adored by their countries, celebrated internationally, struggling with addiction and money troubles while trying to hold on to their talent, and ultimately leaving the stage rather early, much to the shock and sorrow of their fans.

Piaf packed a lot of hard living into her 47 years, and the delicately beautiful Cotillard does not shy away from the role's uglier moments, both physically and emotionally. 

[Note: I love the way the "painting" turned out and it feels vaguely French to me, but I have to confess most of it was achieved digitally after I hand colored my original sketch.] 

Oscar Week: Ruth Gordon

                              

Ruth Gordon won the Supporting Actress Oscar for her role in the 1968 film Rosemary's Baby, directed by Roman Polanski. She played Minnie Castevet, the busybody/devil worshiper next door. It was her first (and only) win after four previous nominations, including three for screenwriting.

One of the older winners at 72, Gordon gave a performance that at first glance seems typical, a comical archetype. By the film's end, and on repeated viewings, there is a sinister, manipulative layer just underneath the surface. Whether offering the pregnant Rosemary her homemade chocolate mousse, or nosily inquiring "what do you pay for a chair like that," Minnie's brand of evil is at once banal and insidious. 

I remember my mother not allowing me to see the film when it came on television because it had been condemned by the Catholic church. She finally relented when I was about 12, mostly, I think, because she wanted to see it herself. Strange as it sounds, Rosemary's Baby is one of the things that made me want to move to New York. From the beautiful, spacious apartments, to the sweltering heat of the summer dripping down Mia Farrow's neck, and the comforting hum of the Woodhouse's air conditioner, New York seemed to me like a grittier, more vibrant Emerald City. Add in the meddlesome satanist next door and I was hooked. After all, who wouldn't give their soul for an apartment in the Dakota and a nice chocolate mousse now and then?

Oscar Week: Geena Davis

I'll be posting portraits (doodles, sketches, whatever you want to call them) of some iof my favorite Oscar winners this week in celebration of next weeks ceremony. I'm using the word favorite very loosely. It could mean the performer, the performance, or maybe just the dress they wore to pick up their trophy.

Up first is Geena Davis, Best Supporting Actress of 1988 for her role as dog trainer Muriel Prichett in the screen adaptation of Anne Tyler's The Accidental Tourist. Seldom has a winner looked more radiant.  

At the time many felt that Davis had an unfair advantage over her competition given her large amount of screen time. But whether she truly belonged in the supporting category or not, she gave a whimsical and moving performance. 

Lift Every Voice and Sing

                                  

Something a little different for Black History month.

My drawing is based on the Augusta Savage sculpture commissioned for the 1939 World's Fair Lift Ev'ry Voice and Sing (aka The Harp). It derives its title from the song of the same name, sometimes known as the Black National Anthem.

With words by educator James Weldon Johnson, it was first performed as a poem by school children in celebration of Lincoln's birthday in 1900. Five years later Johnson's brother John set the words to a stirring melody.  In my opinion it is one of the most beautiful songs every composed and I listen to it (and sing it!) often for inspiration. Yes, I know--I am whiter than cream cheese in a snow storm. Doesn't matter, it's just a damn fine beautiful song.

The sculpture by Savage (1892-1962), who was the first African American elected to the National Association of Women Painters and Sculptors, was a 16 foot tall plaster rendering of stylized figures in choir robes being cradled by the hand of God. The figures combine to form the strings of a harp, with a lone male figure hunched in front holding a piece of music and representing the harp's foot pedal.

Although it is among her best known works, alas The Harp exists only in photographs and memories. Like many of the fair's exhibits, it was designed to be temporary and no funds were set aside to move it or cast it in bronze at the exhibition's conclusion.

Much like the song, the sculpture just really grabs my imagination. I've been looking for one of the miniature versions that apparently were available as souvenirs in 1939 but have been unsuccessful in obtaining one so far. However, I did manage to score on Ebay an original set of postcards from the fair, which includes a rendering of Savage's master work.

Heartfelt as it is, my sketch does not do the piece justice, so I've included a photos I found of Savage at work on the piece in her Harlem studio. It would be lovely if everyone could, just once in their life, create something so awe inspiring.

At The Plaza Hotel Part 2

February 8, 2014

As I recover from my encounter with Candice Bergen, I walk along the perimeter of the dance floor. Eventually I find myself face to face with Audrey Hepburn--a youngish, sort of mid-century Audrey Hepburn.

Audrey Hepburn smiles at me, and wordlessly we begin to dance. Effortlessly we waltz around the room. I feel like I'm in heaven, but after a few minutes I become anxious. I am almost certain I'm about to be found out and tossed out of the Plaza on my ear.

"I have to go."

I pull away and look for an exit.

Audrey Hepburn calls after me with a smile in her voice.

"Come back on Valentine's Day!"

There Are Worse Things I Could Do

Stockard Channing

Today we celebrate the birth Susan Antonia Williams Stockard, born February 13, 1944. You may know her better as Stockard Channing.

What is it about humans that makes us pick favorites, to categorize everything into lists? Favorite colors, favorite movies, favorite songs, favorite actors. I don't know the answer, and even though I do it all the time (see the massive list of "favorites" on my Itunes) I'd be hard pressed to pick just one favorite performer, even after a lifetime of channel surfing and movie and theatre going. But I can tell you that Stockard Channing would undoubtedly hover near the top of the list.

I've seen her  in five plays, one musical, one staged reading, and one Christmas tree lighting. The first time I saw her on stage, in Six Degrees of Separation, I was so close to the stage I could see the veins in her legs through her shiny but sheer stockings. I didn't obsess over them or anything (I am definitely not someone who makes a habit of staring at veins, I'm way to queasy for that) but it was a moment that made me feel like, 'oh this is real, I'm seeing one of the English language's finest actresses at work in the flesh." It was a thrill. 

Five years ago while she was appearing on Broadway in Pal Joey, I met her at the stage door with flowers to celebrate her birthday. I thought there might be other well wishers there but it was just me. She was very gracious and stopped to take a picture and thank me, even though she was dangerously close to missing her half hour call. I had no way of knowing what time she'd arrive so I'd been waiting well over an hour in the cold. It was like Six Degrees of Fahrenheit. 

I'd met her briefly one other time at a reception following a staged reading of The Normal Heart.  A crowd had gathered around her as she shook hands and signed autographs for people. As I awaited my turn I tried to think of something intelligent to say. I wanted desperately to make a good impression. And what came out when I opened my mouth, what did I ask of the woman who had returned to the New York stage to show the world that she was more than just the girl from Grease? 

"Do you think you'll ever do another musical?"

To her credit she did take a second to think about it as she handed me back my freshly signed Playbill.

"I don't know...I hope so"

"I hope so, too!"

I guess there are worse things I could have said.

At The Plaza Hotel Part 1

Candice Bergen and her dummy.

February 8, 2014

I'm at a fancy dinner dance at the Plaza Hotel in New York City. I know I don't belong here and I sneak around hoping not to get caught. 

I notice Candice Bergen strolling around with great purpose, almost as if she's managing the entire affair. I approach her excitedly.

"I had a dream about you," I tell her. "You were a ventriloquist, just like your father."

Without ever breaking her stride, she shoots me an icy stare and deadpans, "Oh yeah? Where you the dummy?"  

Ouch. 

Blue Giraffe

                            

December 30, 2013

I've traveled to South Africa to attend the funeral of Nelson Mandela. I'm staying at a palatial compound high in the hills above Johannesburg. [Are there hills above Johannesburg? I have no idea.]

There is an infinity pool, and it is mesmerizing to gaze out over the horizon as the pool seems to meet the lush valley below. I notice on the edge of the pool a small statue of blue giraffe. I walk to the far side of the pool to retrieve it. It's smooth and shiny, made of porcelain or perhaps a dyed ivory. It is the most exquisite thing I have ever seen, or so I tell a man who seems to be in charge of the compound. 

"Can I have it?" I ask the man.

He tells me the giraffe is part of the estate, and no, I may not have it. 

"What about the gift shop? Could I find one in the gift shop? I'm not going to the funeral until I get one of those giraffes."

I'd like to think that in my waking life I would not skip a state funeral over a giraffe. An elephant or a lion maybe, but not a giraffe. 

Liza It's Cold Outside

     

December 24, 2013

My Christmas Eve Dream:

My sister and I are on a group tour of Manhattan, and we've reached the Northern most point.It is not at all like I would have imagined; it's a cold and nearly barren wasteland. 

Our tour guide, Liza Minnelli, huddles the tour group onto a large piece of plastic. Walls pop up around us and it seems like we'ret on a ride...no wait, it's not a ride, it's a small makeshift theatre.

I'm sitting on the aisle of the back row, but really it's just an old Victorian chair. There is a spotlight next to me and the heat is making me uncomfortable. Liza notices this and quickly starts to wheel it away, even though I tell her not to go to any trouble for me.

"Oh, it's no trouble. You're our guest."

I notice a masculine looking woman in a dark suit and a round beaver hat. She looks a lot like Yentl on her wedding day.

"Is that your sister?" I ask Liza.

"Oh yes, that's Lorna. She's in the show."

"Terrific!"

"Hey, you don't have any shoes or socks. You must be freezing."

Before I can tell her not to bother, she hands me socks made from the softest, warmest fabric I have ever felt in my life. I don't know if they were wool, or silk, or maybe a lambskin blend, but I put them on, and I swear to God, if feet could orgasm, my toes would have made a mess. 

Unfinished Business

It's the last day of the year and I have a little unfinished business, blog wise. When actress Eileen Brennan passed away in July, I was totally slacking off and not posting much after a feverish spring. So now a proper farewell to one of my favorite entertainers.

The cascade of red curls she favored in the 70s and 80s was enough to make me smile; the piercing blue eyes and smoke-stained voice that masked the lyric soprano of her early musical career were enough to induce both fits of laughter and heartfelt tears, depending on the role.

If you're not familiar with her work, you can IMDB or Google her, as many treats await you. Mostly supporting work in films like The Sting, Paper Moon, a couple of Neil Simon comedies, and of course Private Benjamin. You can even find some rare gems on YouTube, like an early television appearance singing the Habenera song from Bizet's Carmen.

For me, I would express her greatness as simultaneously salt of the earth and ethereal. She was both a real broad and a genuine lady. Well, maybe a tad more broad.

I have always tended to be a tiny bit obsessive (though I prefer "enthusiastic") about performers who touch me, but I come by my enthusiasm honestly. Like many things, I inherited it from my mother.

One night in October of 1982, when I was a senior in high school, Eileen Brennan was struck by a car on a darkened street in Venice, California and nearly died. The next day I learned about the accident while doing homework and watching CNN on the small television in our kitchen with my mother. We had both enjoyed Eileen's work tremendously, laughing ourselves silly at everything from her Gal-Friday turn in Murder By Death, to her failed sitcom 13 Queens Boulevard.

It makes me laugh now, but my mother turned away from the TV and looked at me with as much solemnity as I had ever seen her muster. 

"Now Jimmy, I want you to be prepared...because...it doesn't look like she's going to make it."

I love that she took it so seriously, this injury to a beloved member of our imagined extended family. And I love that she knew that I would take it just as seriously. 

And thankfully Eileen Brennan did make it, living through difficult recoveries from both her injuries and a serious addiction to the painkillers used to treat them. She made it, and went on to entertain the world, and me in particular, for another three decades.

The Bride

  

A little late for Halloween but...

About three weeks before Halloween I dreamt I was rummaging through the attic of an old summer stock theatre. Amongst the props and costumes I find something unusual: a framed movie poster for The Bride of Frankenstein. However, instead of Elsa Lanchester with her iconic lightning streaked coife, the bride is played by that scarlet haired spitfire Nancy Walker.. 

This dream actually prompted me to see the film for the first time. I don't think the bride is in the film for more than 10 or 15 minutes, but she does make quite an impression.

Both Sides Now

                                           

November 7, 2013

I dreamed about Joni Mitchell for the second time in my life last night. I like her well enough but I am not particularly a fan. I mean, she's not someone whose birthday I would celebrate. So imagine my shock when I Googled her today and found out that today, November 7 is actually her birthday.

As for the dream itself, I was at a house party in London...a flat party, really. I could see roof tops from the window that reminded me somehow of graham crackers. 

Joni was sitting on the floor in front of a couch surrounded by party goers, including much of my extended family. I sat down in front of her and leafed through a book of her art work while she signed CDs for people. We spoke for a while and she was a very attentive listener, though I don't remember what we spoke about.

I got up to leave and say goodbye, but then turned back to Joni to say, "Oh wait, I thought of one more thing I wanted to tell you." 

It was then that I realized I had barged in on someone else's turn, that in fact there was a female reporter sitting on the couch waiting to interview Joni. 

Joni said I could stick around and talk to her after her interview, but I was so embarrassed at my faux pas, that I quickly headed for the door.

Buddha Fall Down, Go Boom

So far poor Buddha here is the only real casualty of my recent move. That is if you don't include my bank account. But it's worth it to have a place I only have to share with Buster. True, Buster doesn't cook as well as my last roommate, but he's also not as judgmental. Well, maybe he is, but at least he's not as vocal about it. 

Big shout out to the Countess Vitzthum for hanging out with Buster during the move. 

Gentlemen Prefer Gingers

Saturday June 1 marks Marilyn Monroe's 87th birthday. She's certainly a cultural icon and an interesting performer, but this post isn't really about her. It's about what she reminds me of, which is the summer I spent with my Great Aunt Margaret just outside of London. It wasn't really a summer, just two weeks in July and two weeks in August many years ago, but it made a lasting impression.

Aunt Margaret was my grandmother's youngest sister, though they did not really grow up together, as my grandmother was thirteen years older and left their village in Western Ireland for America when Margaret was just five or six. Eventually Margaret left as well, settling in London where she found work as a nurse during World War II. 

I first met her when she and another sister who had settled in London, my Great Aunt Anne, visited America for the Bicentennial. They were rosy cheeked, buxom middle aged women, and I found them fascinating, so much like my Nanny, but somehow different, foreign...always laughing, smiling, winking, drinking gin. Not that Nanny wasn't fun, but I think their natural charm combined with their novelty made them pretty irresistible. 

In the fall of 1986 Margaret (who was the first person to ever call me "ginger-headed") visited again, this time by herself. Anne was unwell and would soon pass on. Margaret arrived just as my grandmother suffered a mild heart attack, and she helped nurse her back to health during her stay.

One evening I paid them a visit at Nanny's apartment, and along with a few elderly aunts from my grandfather's side of the family, we spent the night playing cards. I peppered Aunt Margaret with questions about London, particularly the theatre scene. "Come visit. Anytime you like," she told me.

Well, that was all the encouragement I needed. I started saving every penny I could for my trip, and nine short months later, there I was being met by Aunt Margaret at Gatwick's international gate.

London was everything I'd hoped it would be--great museums, theatre (Diana Rigg in Follies on my birthday was a highlight) Hyde Park, Madame Tussaud's, day trips to Dover, Brighton, and more. It was all great, but it's the time I spent with Aunt Margaret that has meant so much to me over the years.

I was pretty skinny that summer, and like any wonderful old relative she never stopped trying to feed me. Tea, scones, digestive biscuits, lots of grilled fish, enormous breakfasts, and my most favorite--rhubarb tart with rhubarbs picked from her own garden, covered with a homemade custard. Every time I complimented a dish she'd smile and say the same thing in her lilting brogue, "Oh, it's ever so easy to make!"

One day I came home from a local record shop with the out of print London cast recording of Gypsy with Angela Lansburry. Aunt Margaret got it into her head that Gypsy Rose Lee was buried in a churchyard cemetery on the outskirts of London and convinced her son Kevin to drive us around for hours on a Saturday looking for it. For the record, she's buried in Inglewood, California, but we didn't know that then and so we soldiered on, taking in several old churches along the way. 

Aunt Margaret was part of her neighborhood watch. Once a month or so she'd have to stay up all night to keep lookout on her block. While I was visiting her turn came so I told her I would stay up with her. It happened to fall on the 25th anniversary of Marilyn Monroe's death, and the BBC was showing her movies all night long. While we should have been protecting Gilbert Road we were watching Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, Bus Stop, and How to Marry a Millionaire. Every once in a while during a commercial break one of us would get up, pull back the lace curtain and give a perfunctory peak out the window. 

Being somewhat removed from our immediate family, as well as a healthcare professional, I guess it was easier for Margaret to speak freely, and so she was the first relative to ever ask me about my mother, to acknowledge, and to help me acknowledge, that there was something wrong, that her life was a daily struggle for stability. It was a brief conversation, but it was a huge gesture.

One morning as the end of my trip was nearing, Aunt Margaret reached into her jewelry box and pulled out a simple gold pin with a dark green square stone. She squeezed it into my hand saying, "bring this home for your mom."   I still have and treasure it.

I don't feel like this post is quite doing her justice, but I absolutely adored my Aunt Margaret, and I'm all at once sentimental and euphoric whenever I see Gentlemen Prefer Blondes...or eat a rhubarb tart. I hear they're ever so easy to make.

Gypsy, Tramp, and Thief

                                               

Whoa! If this doesn't make you feel old, I don't know what will. The ever youthful Cher is 67 years old today. Of course it's easier to be ever youthful if you replace your parts every now and then.

The first 45 I ever bought was Cher's Dark Lady, that classic tale of an adulterous fortune teller and the wife who would have her revenge. Heady stuff for an 8 year old.

Beep Beep, Toot Toot: Remembering a Bad Girl

                         

Unfortunately I don't have a lot of time to write today, but I wanted to acknowledge the one year anniversary of the passing of the Queen of Disco, Miss Donna Summer.

There are two people whom I passed up chances to see in concert thinking I'd get another opportunity that never came: Nina Simone and Donna Summer. 

I don't have a particular connection with her, but I do enjoy her music immensely  and once I dreamt I saw her at a wedding. She left her sweater on the back of her chair while she went to the lady's room. Without hesitation, I stole the sweater just so I could pretend I had found it and return it to her.

This post is dedicated to my friend John S. who loves Donna as much as I love Barbra...and to the closet Donna Summer fan in my life...you know who you are!!

Because W're All Cool Kids

                               

Fuck you Abercrombie.

THE DOCTOR IS OUT

I woke up at about 3 AM this morning, as I often do, and decided to go on line to read the Irish Sports Page, also known as the New York Times obituary section. I guess it's not for nothing that they have that moniker as this son of County Mayo (well, grandson of County Mayo) always goes to the obituaries first.

This morning I read about the late Dr. Joyce Brothers, and a couple of things struck me. First, I never realized she was such an academic with degrees from Cornell and Columbia, and that she actually did help people, including several suicidal callers to her early radio and TV programs. By the time I was aware of her, I thought of her as kind of a punchline ("hey, Dr. Joyce Brothers, flick that sweat ball off your nose...what are you trying to do, make me sick!!"), or doling out quips on The Hollywood Squares, or What's My Line?

It got me to thinking about my own psychologist, who bore more than a passing resemblance to Dr. Brothers, with her short blonde hair, prominent front teeth and droopy eyelids. Lowenstein, as I liked to refer to her when discussing my sessions (mostly with my sister) rented a series of small rooms on Manhattan's Upper West Side, each furnished with one chair, one well worn love seat, a couple of lamps, and an endless supply of Kleenex. Lowenstein was not her real name of course, but rather the name of the shrink played by Barbra Streisand in The Prince of Tides. It was just more fun to say Lowenstein, and besides, it was close enough to my doctor's actual name--they both ended in Stein.

I started seeing Dr. Lowenstein within about two weeks of seeing A Streetcar Named Desire on Broadway (see my earlier post "Jessica Lange Scares The Shit Out Of Me".) at the start of a long hot summer. I saw her off and on for almost ten years, but I never had a regular slot. She just always gave me her cancellations or if she knew someone with a regular slot was going to be out of town she'd pencil me in. Ten years and no slot of  my own. Good thing I'm not the sensitive type.

For much of the time I went to see her, Dr. Lowenstein struck me as being completely bored during our sessions. As a former performer (and a writer), I couldn't help but worry that my stories weren't holding her interest. I did finally ask her about it once.

"It's not your job to entertain me," she said. "It doesn't matter if you repeat yourself and I hear the same story over and over again."

Ouch. Honestly, why didn't she just say, "I'm not bored." That would have been a lot more reassuring. But when she told me that she hated Ethel Merman and that she thought that Anne Meara looked and smelled like a bag lady when she ran into her in the fitting room at Loehmann's, well I knew then that our days together were numbered.

I looked her up today just for fun. Well, fun is a stretch, but out of curiosity I Googled her. Twice today I mistook pictures of Dr. Joyce Brothers for Dr. Lowenstein, that's how similar they are in appearance.  I found this review of her services at one of those rate-your-doctor website: "Sour face. Sour advice. She is not helpful. Felt worse after seeing her, like I just walked into a rain cloud."

I don't want to minimize how she helped me to deal with anxiety, or how apparently revisiting the same themes in session after session allowed my heart to catch up with my head when it came to unresolved feelings of sadness and guilt surrounding my mother (yes, yes, I know I'm still visiting those themes here!) but when it was time to go, I was the one saying, "I'm sorry, our time is up, we'll have to stop now."

From time to time I've thought about starting up with another shrink, and I even tried it once for a few weeks several  years ago. But it was like being half way through watching Gone With The Wind, only to have someone come in late and keep asking, "Wait, who is Ashley? What's that girl doing on the horse? Which one's Butterfly McQueen? Is she related to Steve?" It just took too much energy and time to go over territory that had already been covered...and scorched.

Happy Mother's Day

I have not celebrated Mother's Day for a very long time. It used to just make me sad, so I tried to ignore it as much as I could. And besides, I don't really need a holiday to remember my mom, as if she weren't ever more than a few minutes from crossing my mind. 

But this year I am feeling differently, and today I am happy to think of her with a smile. That's why the illustrations are awash in purple, my favorite color, and one that always makes me feel joyous. 

My mom was quick whited, and could be biting and infuriating, but also very kind. She delighted in my clumsiness, often comparing me to Baby Huey. I know that sounds a little mean, but she always said it with a smile, with love. I imagine growing up one of seven children helped form her take-no-prisoners sense of humor.

One year for Christmas I asked for a Linda Ronstadt album. Nothing else. I unwrapped everything under the tree that was tagged "To: Jimmy From: Santa." (My mother signed all of our gifts from Santa, even when my siblings and I were well into our teens and twenties.) I tore open socks, underwear, Avon aftershave (my mother was an Avon Lady--one who somehow never left the house to make a delivery, and why should she when she could get me or my Dad or my sister to deliver the little white bags for her) and a Shirley MacLaine book I had bought myself at the mall on Christmas Eve, and then gave to my Dad to wrap and put under the tree to ease my guilt about shopping for myself so close to Christmas.

The one gift I had asked for and was excited to receive was not under the tree. I was disappointed but tried not to act bitter. After all of the wrapping paper was collected and thrown away and we were all just sitting around the tree listening to Christmas music, my mother turned to me and said, "Well, did Santa bring you everything  you wanted?" 

I tried to be grateful. I mean, I wasn't a little kid, I was eighteen. I couldn't very well throw a tantrum.

"Yeah, I guess so," I replied.

"Why don't you go into my room and look on the bed. I think maybe he left one more thing for you."

I knew right away it was the Linda Ronstadt album.  I smiled. She had gotten me. Again. 

Anyway,  that was my mom. Funny and infuriating. 

(note: the drawings are based on pictures of my mom and dad from about 10 years or so before I was born, so it's not really how I remember them, but I do love my mom's crazy hat and my dad's casual smirk.)

This Perfectly Marvelous Girl

I've been seeing Broadway plays and musicals since I was sixteen years old. Picking favorite performances and plays is tough, but there are a few that always stand out in my memory. Diana Rigg in Medea, Tyne Daly in Gypsy, a staged reading of The Normal Heart with Eric Bogosian and Stockard Channing. And many, many more. But for sheer excitement, nothing compares in my memory with seeing the sparks fly between Natasha Richardson and Liam Nesson in Eugene O'Neill's Anna Christie.

The limited run was completely sold out and I did not have a ticket. Then the producers announced a "midnight matinee" benefit performance for Broadway Cares/Equity Fights Aids, spearheaded by Richardson, who's own father had died of the disease a year or so earlier. At a hundred bucks a seat, it was pricey but it was the only way to see the hottest show in town, and it was for a good cause.

I have a pretty good memory, but I do not have anything even close to total recall when it comes to this night. Just images, like Natasha's long, beautiful hair, and her raincoat, which got quite a workout as Liam Neeson spat a fair amount in her direction during his more animated moments. But the intensity I remember, the sitting on the edge of my seat wide awake and absolutely riveted at nearly 3 AM as the play drew to a close and the cast emerged for their bows wearing those famous red ribbons, that I remember. (I also remember it was about 15 degrees outside, and so it seemed like a good idea to stop at the old Howard Johnson's on 46th St and drink half a pitcher of sangria with my friend, but I'm getting off track.)

About five years later I got to see Natasha Richardson on stage one more time in her Tony winning role as Sally Bowels in the 1998 revival of Cabaret. She did not have what I'd call a pretty singing voice, and I did not have a particularly good seat, but she blew we away just the same. Intense, naughty, sexy, mischievous, lost. Like her mother Vanessa, she seemed to have range that knew few limits, and like her Aunt Lynn (always my favorite Redgrave) a sort of pluck and gameness to try anything.

I never met Natasha Richardson, and I did not have a Clayburgh-ian type breakdown when she died, but I did find it very shocking and sad, as many people did. It was the sort of thing that's just not supposed to happen--a mother with young children bumps her head during a ski lesson, gets up and shakes it off, and hours later is brain dead. Senseless.

Seven months later I went with my friend Kevin to the Cathedral of St. John the Divine to see Vanessa Redgrave perform Joan Didion's opus on grief and loss The Year of Magical Thinking. Under the best of circumstances it would have been a difficult piece to watch, but seeing a performer whose own grief was so public, so recent, so raw made me uncomfortable. I felt more ghoulish voyeur than audience member. 

The highlight of the evening for me came before we ever set foot inside the Cathedral. We were climbing the stairs leading from the street through the yard toward the building. Walking on the dimly lit path, we careened into two adolescent boys who had stopped short on a landing to say hello to someone. Under my breath (God, I hope it really was under my breath) I muttered, "nice place to stop!" before I realized it was Natasha's two young sons greeting my favorite Redgrave, their great aunt Lynn. I fought my natural inclination to linger and ease drop and maybe meet my favorite Redgrave. As much as I wanted to be a star fucker (as my friend Michael colorfully puts it), allowing them this semiprivate moment was the right thing to do.

Aw hell, I've gotten off track again. Natasha Richardson would have been 50 years old today, May 11, 2013. I was lucky to spend one of the most exciting nights of my life watching her heat up the stage with the love of her life well into the wee hours of a frigid morning. 

She Can Cook, Too

 Nancy Walker as Rosie, the Bounty Lady in a sketch I made many years ago.

 I had to crop her hand out of the picture because honestly it made her look part lobster.

Philadelphia's own Anna Myrtle Swoyer was born on May 10, in 1922. Better known by her stage name, Nancy Walker, she introduced Bernstein songs in Brodway's On The Town, appeared on film with Mickey Rooney and Judy Garland in Girl Crazy, and became widely known for her TV work on The Mary Tyler Moore Show, Rhoda, McMillan and Wife, and a string of commercials for Bounty paper towels. Late in her career she hilarioulsy played a deaf mute maid in Murder by Death and directed the Village People in the cult classic Can't Stop The Music...well, nobody gets out of show business with only roses on their resume.

When I was in 10th great I wrote the libretto and lyrics for an unproduced musical I called It's All Relative. It centered around two New York City sisters and their well meaning but overbearing mother. I worked on it for months, feeling great excitement and pride about this original idea I'd developed. It was only after I'd finished the first and only draft and reread it that I realized what I'd done...I had unwittingly written a musical based on Rhoda.

Well, I suppose there are worse ideas. As far as I can remember, not much happened. One sister overate and went to group therapy (perhaps it was a blend of Bob Newhart and Rhoda?) while the other sister pursued a career in the arts and searched for a husband, all while being tortured by their spitfire mother.

Anyway, the vastly talented Nancy Walker, all 4 foot 11 inches of her, was a very bright spot in my childhood (and not just because of her flaming red hair) and I am happy to salute her on what would have been her 91st birthday.

If you've never heard her sing, here's a treat courtesy of Youtube.